Everything with follow from being in touch with yourself, your heart, your Intuition, whatever. Would I like it if they told me I was doing a good job and seemed to mean it? People are selfish, prideful, and sensitive creatures. I listen to as an audiobook at least once a year and each time I pull something valuable from it while also sharpening some of my old familiar social tools. I have the worst patience as in non-existent to boot. He also gives examples from the lives of successful people to elaborate his point and also, gives pointers on how to incorporate those pieces of advice in our daily lives.
Born into poverty on a farm in Missouri, he was the author of How to Win Friends and Influence People 1936 , a massive bestseller that remains popular today. About the Author Dale Carnegie was a well-known inspirational teacher and author who wrote a series of popular self-help books that sold millions of copies in the 1930s and 1940s. Is your post not where it belongs? In any case, I think this book is worth reading just for its historical value. One need not be Einstein to know this. Not a book per se for making friends, although it certainly can be used that way with a grain of salt perhaps , but more directly a book that promotes good communication, kindness, and the social skills to foster healthy and productive working relationships.
We've all met charismatic and charming people who can take advantage of any situation seamlessly. Go into it with a reflective approach and a genuine and concentrated effort to gain wisdom and you will be rewarded with the insights to achieve the goodwill of others as well as solid and lasting relationships. Anyone wh This is an incredible book. In 2011, it was number 19 on Time Magazine's list of the 100 most influential books. When you take the lead in showing sympathy for other perspectives, others are likely to do the same for you. It didn't matter that those people did have redeeming qualities - they weren't redeeming enough! Since Carnegie wrote his book in 1935, many of his examples may seem obsolete or outmoded today, but his basic principles are timeless, eminently useable and presented in an easy-to-read and personal style.
Teachers, emotional teenagers, employers, employees, husbands, wives, brothers, sisters, friends, neighbors, politicians etc. It's not about being evil or admitting you're nerdy; it's about how to get along with people. Dale--like all other sophists, politicians, and prostitutes--cared only for appearances, but underneath the accommodating demeanor of Andrew Carnegie was a heart as hard as the steel his factories forged. He must have been a courageously dynamic speaker—he sold his seminars for a thousand a pop, back then! There's a time and a place to do those things, but they are rare. Good friends aren't like difficult customers; they are people you can argue with and vent to, people who you don't have to impress.
During World War I he served in the U. Not much anachronism here, because language still serves the same purposes as ever, and people still want basically the same things they've always wanted. These nine steps really address that difficulty. I would recommend putting a little thought in to it, but with your motive behind it all, I imagine you already are. I have three copies of this book in my house--the first an aqua paperback my father originally bought for me, the second the very same paperback my father re-bought for me when in a fit of rebellion I told him I'd lost the first copy, and the third my father's own disheveled edition he brought back from India. You can take the job you have. Overall: A well written book with a lot of examples, including many of good folks from the history and many without any citation, but none-the-less seem real.
You are transparent about what you like, and don't. This book tells you to peer into your mind and learn about yourself. Start Off in a Friendly Way Anatol Rapaport once offered up these four rules of engagement. And if you want to influence people the only fair way to do it is through honesty. That's why you have to know youself in the first place. Some examples were really interesting others a bit ridiculous.
On the sinister side this is a book that celebrates positive thinking, which is to say that it ignores a realistic appraisal of the world in favour of having your cake and eating it, on one level this is a fairly harmless book on another it tends towards and the belief that others and oneself are to blame if you die when a ferry sinks, or if you are persecuted, or if you develop cancer because plainly such things only happen because you weren't positive enough. Outside of that, I think it's a good first step for people trying to be more social. Also dont be a dick. Let the propagation of your ideas be the reward. But I guess the book was probably written with a more professional setting in mind.
It took me days to read that because I understood how valuable that was, and I learned a lot from it. To get along with people you need to direct your actions towards their egos. I believe the book is mainly for business people and to be used in the work place. It is one of the most popular and influential books of its type ever and provided the foundations for contemporary self-help celebrities, such as Oprah Winfrey, as well as much of current motivational and organizational psychology that one finds in current business school curricula. Every chapter, he has one point summarized in a neat box at the end. I can associate lots of details to a face and lots of details to a name in my head, but I somehow often fail to be able to connect the name to the face. I bet you can't finish it one day! Carnegie's book is 100% about social interactions, and every single principle he discusses is something that I can work on every day.